I Friend-Zoned My Turtle !

As we all know, being in college in an unaccustomed place, which is my kind of experience that I talk about, is all about having fun and prospecting the best we can. Making new friends, adapting to new changes in life, learning to stay organised and maintain some discipline in our life.

Some end up in places they truly love and some don't. For me, I truly cherished my first year of college. It was precisely how I expected it to be. Friends every nook and corner, ample of things to do and some days I would go to bed early cause of my hyper level throughout the entire day. Everything was just fine but then things started drifting drastically. Had a couple of reasons but one of what I would talk about isn't based on all the situations. It's recent and something that got me questioning about. 

Love. Why do we fall in love for the minute reason? I mean, how well do you know the person you wish to carry on? How long do you think it would last? Would her parents be okay having you as a part of their family? Would you still be the same crazy fun people till the end when you were just friends? Is it the inner person or just the appearance that satisfies? 

Let's get our fact straight. If you don't know what you're getting into without a basic idea, it's over. If you know there's a distance inbuilt from the start and there's nothing you can do rather put hopes that you would some day get a job and be free, it's over. If there's a religious difference, it's over. If you abide your own rules and expectations, it's over. 

For those who really wish to take the risk of falling in love with a separate religion, go ahead. But know what you're truly falling for. Not everything that shines last long. Some girls, in the end, will surely choose their family over you, simply cause love within the family is stronger than your broken hopes. Provided, no girl falls for a man who can't prove that they're not worth their risk and pride. 

Friendship and love. There is something poetic about combining these two categories where something has or is yet to be faded away. Why do we see some really good friendship as love? Infatuations do exist and to a certain level, people talk things out and continue as friends. Rest who still continues to try their luck gets nowhere and heart broken. 

Honestly, I feel love is when you find everything that puts you in place and confines you the best promise till the end. Having your first thought on how you could bring in two families together. It's very important. Marriage isn't just between two people but families. We must have a happy place for them to come together for our big milestones. Those happy moments when you see your parents treating her/his parents with love and respect. 

So for those of you are yet to go to universities or still has the time ahead of you, please don't choose love over friendship. Always find the perfect reason to fall in love. You must know everything about the person before you even think about it. You need to have tons of good memories and know all tiny details about them. What drives them to cloud 9 and what annoys them the most? It's okay to fight once in a while cause that makes your bond stronger knowing little more on how they deal with situations, but you need to know how to get past those fights better. 

You can't ignore them whenever you feel like over the words 'I am busy' and find unnecessary excuses for not keeping in touch for days. You can't expect people to read minds. Instead, you got to straighten up and let them know. 

My advice is to stay the best when you can. Don't let love or heart breaks define your college days. There are so many things you can do just by being with friends. To few, it's your last resort for being a student. Just go out there, enjoy the best you can. Let love find you. 

People may come in various form to confuse you, making you want to love. It's hard but understand it's not worth to have a memory as college life. Love is full of responsibilities you can't run away from. You won't feel free to do the things you really want but make plans with that one person. You start to distance yourself from friends in the name of love. But if you're still desperate to find love, make sure it lasts long and you have found a match for lifelong. Don't put yourself under unnecessary heart breaks and emotions that could make you miss out on so many best opportunities out there. 

Understand friends will come and go for the lamest reason. When they are loyal to you, they stay for life. Even after you get settled off, you can still come back to them with your new family for a better get-together, talking about the smallest memories that made you laugh then. Rather break your friendship and make them feel they can't talk to you anymore. 

Free yourself. Love yourself the most when you can. Explore the world, it isn't too small. Live to wake every morning in a new place. Travel. Learn new things that could make you stand out of the crowd. There's nothing impossible in this world. Just get out of your comfort zone and breathe a different kind of love of nature and life. 

Be a turtle when it comes to love. Go slow and experience the best you can. Hide if you find trouble and jump out of your suit to get sun kissed in places you know you're completely safe.

Love

Helen